Second, give her the five things every woman wants: laughter, appreciation, emotional connection, feel feminine and beautiful, and great sex.
Third, before having sex get rid of the idea of “slut.” If she’s gonna have sex with you, she’s gotta know you won’t think of her as a slut. You’ll respect her as adventurous, spontaneous, liberated, independent. And you won’t announce it to the world. In other words, make her feel comfortable.
Now, let’s break each of those things down:
1. See Past Her Beauty
The following three sentences are THE key to success in the game.
“I needed to let her know that unlike every other guy in the bar, I am not and will not be intimidated by her looks. Beauty to me was now a shit test: It weeded out the losers who got dumbstruck by it.”Those three sentences is what’s behind a “Neg,” the “DHV,” and the “Qualifier”:
(page 152, “The Game,” by Neil Strauss)
NEG: “I’m not interested in getting in your pants.” Breaks her “superior” facade because of her beauty. Makes you into a challenge. And makes her laugh.
DHV: self-discloses something cool about yourself. Not trying to “get in her pants.” Talking with her like a human being.
QUALIFIER: “Is there more to you than just your pretty looks?” And it gets her investing in the interaction.
The neg, DHV, and qualifier is all about NOT getting bamboozled by a woman’s beauty. But talking with her as a human being. You’re stronger than the gravitational pull of her beauty. Because it’s just a facade.
2. She’s Just an Average Girl
Speaking of facades, remember behind her beauty, she’s just an average girl.
I learned it from a guy named Rion Williams. Her beauty is bullshit. These are his exact words:
If you cut through the B.S. exterior of a pretty woman’s faux social persona, she’s just an average girl…Looking beyond her appearance is a HUGE piece in success with women. They’re human beings.
You could say it another way…
There’s inherently nothing different between an average looking girl and a really beautiful one. Deep down they are still a woman and need loving.
~Rion Williams, p.227 “Men’s Guide to Women”
So she’s beautiful. Cool. Whatever. Who is she? Is there more to her than her looks? Does she have a positive outlook? Is she curious about things? What kind of person is she? Who is she underneath?
When you really get down to it, we all humans want the same thing. We want love. We want to love and be loved in return.
Easier said than done. But talk to her as a human being, rather than trying to get into her pants. How? Again, that’s where the neg, the DHV, and the qualifier come i
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